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Name: Nathanael
Country: United States
State: Illinois
Metro: Aurora
Birthday: 7/5/1984
Gender: Male
Interests: Well... I love GOD...first!
besides that, well...
Reading, Writing, Friends, Family, Poetry, Movies, Cars, Video Games, Music, Thrift Shopping, Board/Bored Games, Controversy, Tattoos, Food, Vegetarian Food, Love, Melancholic Moments, long walks on the beach...*ahem*...I have said too much as it is.
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Expertise: Well...
I am good at writing poetry,
I am rather good at photography,
I am a runner - 2 years of nationals for T&F
I like praying; it's not something I would say I am GOOD at doing, but... I like communication with my Heavenly Father.
I like active listening,
I like foreign languages; I have 2 down, 6 more to go.
I like having a good laugh,
I like being a shoulder to cry on - everyone needs to now and then.
I like blogging...
fin*
(for now)
Occupation: Student
Industry: Youth Ministry
Message: message me
Website: visit my website
AIM:  SamuraiMonkey84
Member Since:
9/19/2005
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| Sexual Education - Am I setting a double standard?Lately I have been thinking about the future eduation of my future children pertaining to sex. I am thinking this over now so that when the time comes I might have a better answer to give...
I am a virgin, it is not a religious thing, it is not a because-God-told-me-to thing, but in my opinion I find that sex will be best between me and my future wife, to her I will give my virginity. Now if I marry someone who isn't a virgin, I am fine with that, but from a personal standpoint I am waiting.
Yet when I think about how I will go about teaching sex ed to my kids, some things come to mind:
- I will teach my kids the very basics at a younger age than I
- I want to open and honest where I can be with my kids pertaining to sex and sexualty
- When they're of age, I am considering teaching teaching them both abstinence AND safe[r] sex
The last one has me thinking, am I setting a double standard? Granted my sexual education was vague and somewhat of a joke, but in some ways it was my parents who taught me to save sex for marriage (but it is not their views that I reflect in my sexuality, but my own).
But thinking about kids in this present day and age, and some of the things I struggle and what my future kids might struggle with, I can't help but think that I might approach sex ed from both standpoints -- not as a save-sex-for-marriage-but-if-you-can't standpoint, but faced with sexuality in their own ways, I rather have my kids better prepared by use of different safe[r] sex methods.
I'm sure that some might question What if your daughter gets pregnant? What if your son gets someone pregnant? Yes, this is on my mind as well, and honestly I believe if I set the roots of trust and honesty in a lot of things at an early age, nurturing it like a plant, when kids are older they will remember and what might be deemed awkward might not be too awkward because the plants of trust and hoensty has been constantly nurtured and have grown into awesome plants (my kids in case you got lost in this metaphor).
I want to teach my kids about sexuality, that it is a gift from God, that is an awesome gift and should not be treated cheaply. I don't want to raise kids who run around sleeping with everyone, but if I seem maturity in them, sexual/emotional and even spiritual, I might be more comfortable handing them condoms and birth control than if I never set the groundwork (it has to be set down, but still it is maturity from the groundwork that my wife and I will have to resolve if we should hand them better protection than none).
With abstinence I want it to be something they claim, I don't want them to go about as virgins from a standpoint of that their mom and I told them to. I want it to become they either accept or reject on their own, same thing with being raised in a Christian household, I want what they hear and learn to be something they claim as their own, as the quote goes; "God has no grandchildren". It has to be something they think out and call their own, thinking for oneself is a part of growing up.
Still with all this, but mostly the latter, my wife will have a say in this. I will not go behind my wife and hand out better protection if she says NO in abstinence taught along side safe[r] sex. Yet maybe she will see my point of view and this is how we will teach our kids about sex and sexuality.
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| The catalysts of an ear infectionI got an ear infection when I was out in Phoenix, it isn't a painful feeling per se, but I have little to no hearing in my left ear. Back in IL as a result-
- I am having anxiety attacks
- I hear myself eat
- I hear myself when I talk
- and I am getting a little stir crazy as a result...
I don't think it is going to be a long term thing, but it sucks nonetheless. It is weird to have a right ear to balance sound out in a logical way even tho it fails at doing it with one ear, it tries but alas sounds and voices come out a bit distorted as a result of hearing through one ear.
Can I complain about this....well...yes and no;
Yes - Because it hurts to hear out of only one ear, it hurts that I am trying to look for a job and try to take in what they're saying to the best of my ability, it hurts that I am having panic attacks (never have had them before) and the problems that stem from them.
No - Because there are people out there who can't hear at all. One ear that hears is better than none, but I guess that might be contested by the deaf community.
So I guess as much as this is annoying, it won't be forever.
P.S. If you're the praying sort, please pray that my ear infection goes away. Thank you :)
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| Dreams
I've been having a lot of dreams lately, and I wish someone how I knew what they all meant. Forget the dreams about the fast cars, but what does walking hand in hand with my best guy friend from High School sister on an agate beach in IL mean?
She is a nice girl and has an edge for excitement and trying new things like I do, and even tho we hang out now and then, I don't really know what to make of it...
And then there are my dreams where I am finally feeling like a success; I have the bills paid off, I am living on my own and away from..well, some of you know, I'm working a job I like and the money isn't that shabby either, and some girl without a face is a part of it all...she hasn't a face, but she does have ever changing features based on what I like about girls from an external point of view...
Dreams throw me for a loop sometimes and they can make me sometimes but they also can break me down as well because I am flustered with myself for my lack of a job/etc and also what never came to fruition relationship wise...I have to keep moving, but the past and dreams are like octopus tentacles grabbing at me, trying to pull me into the deep.
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| I'm putting together a protected listWho wants in?
I do have some of you in mind that I will add right off the bat, but who else wants to be put on the list?
I won't be posting sex stories or talking behind other people's backs or something like that, I was thinking homemade Post Secrets which leads me to suggest - What if we (all of us, group collaboration) made some Post Secrets, made a Xanga spinoff of www.postsecret.com?
Well if you're interested in any of these, feel free to comment...in addition to that, add why you want to be on my protected list, consider this your tryouts.
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| This guy has my job! ;)
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